Proverbs 31: A Godly Woman’s Worth Finding

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Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil
all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12 (NKJV)

Proverbs 31 is a gracious gift from God. It was included in the Bible for a reason, and it is not only for the well being of women. Men and children will also gain wisdom and understanding by reading this proverb. The benefits of finding a virtuous woman are well spelled out, so men would do well to seek a wife with the assets found within the description of this fine lady. (Children will gain a deeper appreciate of their mother)

 In verse 10 the question is raised, “Who can find a virtuous wife?” Even in those days it was difficult to find a woman with integrity, skill, virtue, and wisdom.  However, they did exist back then and they do exist in the present age, although you may have to look a littler harder and wait a little longer to find this special woman.

Her worth and value is compared to rubies, stressing that she is far beyond the worth of these gems. Trust in a marriage is a strong and desirable trait, so having one by your side with whom you confidently credit with reliability and credence is worth seeking.  She is indeed a treasure to be found!

A husband’s heart is put at ease when he can rely on his wife’s virtue and strengths, while also trusting her with the most sensitive of confidences. He fears no evil intent and knows his welfare is her heart’s desire. Sadly, Samson did not marry a Proverb’s 31 woman. Delilah sought out the secret of his strength for she had evil intentions to use his secret against him. ( I am a single woman and Bride of Christ.  It is for Him I live to honor and serve. It is His confidences I seek to gain.)

The woman described in Proverbs 31 is a hard worker who rises early and keeps her hands busy. She does not eat the bread of idleness. She is also girded with strength and extends her hand in charity to the poor and needy. 

The outer beauty found in women has been a snare to many men. Proverbs 31 ends with a warning and reminds the reader that beauty is fleeting.  It is the inner beauty of a virtuous woman that last an entire lifetime.  It is seen in the eyes, a smile, and even in a slight movement or gesture. 

Charm is also attractive, but it can be used to deceive. A woman who speaks words of wisdom, gives sound advice, keeps secrets, and offers sincere and kind words to those in need, is most likely a Proverbs 31 woman.  It is she I am striving to become! 

Dear One,  how are you working towards righteousness and wisdom?

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her: “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.” Proverbs 31:26-29 (NKJV)

“The Lord confides in those who fear him; He makes His covenant known to them.” Psalm 25:14 (NIV)

“The secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him, and He will show them His covenant.” Psalm 25:14 (NKJV)

“The secret of the Lord is for those who fear Him, and He will make them know His covenant.” Psalm 25:14 (NASB)


  1. Such a woman is beyond price! I may add, that the same thing could be said about a man too! I would love to meet such a woman but for me it’s like the quest for the Holy Grail.

    • Cheryl Zelenka says:

      Hi Tim,
      I agree that the same thing could be said for a Godly man. Many Christian women, who believe in the Biblical roles of marriage and family, have a hard time submitting to the leadership of a husband who is weak in his walk with God. However, this is when wives must trust God to meet their needs…. and speak to the heart of their husband.

      Single ladies who desire a Proverb’s 31 MAN will either find him, have to wait a long time for him, or may never attain one as the desire of God is to keep them single for His service and love alone.

      I believe there are Godly women out there, Tim and MANY of them are my friends. I wish you were in the states as I have two lovely widows who you would adore. If you have strong Christian friends see if they can introduce you to a special lady.

      I have to believe the same thing is true with sincere Godly men. In my case, I don’t think God wants me in a relationship, at least not right now. A relationship would be a distraction for me and would hinder the work I believe God has for me to do. Relationships take a lot of time and effort. Our society is all about couples but God has consecrated some to live a single life. This is not an easy path but one of great rewards.

      If you are actively seeking a Godly woman, continue to pray that God would send her your way. His timing is perfect, so in the mean time keep your eyes open but continue doing the work HE has assigned YOU to accomplish. It is better to be single than in a marriage with a contentious woman. I pray your heart’s desires are aligned with HIS and that you soon get your Proverb’s 31 woman. Blessings to you and remember, we serve a God of hope and power.